Can We Still Be Friends (after Divorce)?

Mar 1, 2021

from Song by Todd Rundgren, 1978 If you’ve had enough birthdays, you may remember this 70’s song by Todd Rundgren. He poses a question that comes up at the end of relationships. Maybe, if we can still be friends, it will soften the blow, lessen the pain. A more...

My Wife Had an Affair – Do I Have to Pay Her Spousal Support?

Sep 1, 2020

Your feelings around your spouse’s infidelity are natural, understandable, and important. Feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, shock, rage, and so on are to be expected when one’s partner has been unfaithful.  Your feelings around the affair, whatever they might be, are...

How to Stop Fighting in Front of Your Kids

Aug 2, 2020

(Beyond Buttoning Your Lips!) Hold a “Commitment Ceremony” Before you can implement any of the following ideas, you need to have a commitment from your ex (or soon to be ex) that you will both do everything possible to stop fighting in front of the kids. Write it down...

How to Divorce in the Coronavirus Environment – Video Conferencing!

Mar 16, 2020

What with all the anxiety and tension related to the Coronavirus and its upheaval in our lives, the Collaborative Process can be the respite couples want when deciding to divorce in this climate.  Many courts have shut down and are not able to help in this time of...