How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Separation or Divorce

May 1, 2021

10 tips to help you organize and prepare yourself for a difficult conversation: telling your spouse. One of the first questions I get from people who consult with me is “How do I tell my spouse?”  Even if you believe your spouse sees it coming (or should have...

Can We Still Be Friends (after Divorce)?

Mar 1, 2021

from Song by Todd Rundgren, 1978 If you’ve had enough birthdays, you may remember this 70’s song by Todd Rundgren. He poses a question that comes up at the end of relationships. Maybe, if we can still be friends, it will soften the blow, lessen the pain. A more...

Parenting in the Age of COVID

Jan 1, 2021

2020 was a year for the history books.  It has had a huge impact on how we live our lives, in ways most of us had never imagined. Parenting children in the age of COVID proves to be challenging even in an intact family. Add in separation and divorce and the areas of...

“Mom and Dad, Thank You for How You Did Your Divorce.”

Jan 21, 2020

My adult son said this to me thirty years after his father and I were divorced.  He went on to say, “I have strengths now that I don’t think I would have except for the way you and Dad did your divorce.”    I was astonished when my son said this to me.  Jim is...