10 tips to help you organize and prepare yourself for a difficult conversation: telling your spouse. One of the first questions I get from people who consult with me is “How do I tell my spouse?” Even if you believe your spouse sees it coming (or should have...
If you are one of those couples in love and planning to share your lives, Shelter in Place has given you a unique opportunity to learn about your mate and to contemplate your life together. 2020 has ushered a period of particularly heightened uncertainty and with...
from Song by Todd Rundgren, 1978 If you’ve had enough birthdays, you may remember this 70’s song by Todd Rundgren. He poses a question that comes up at the end of relationships. Maybe, if we can still be friends, it will soften the blow, lessen the pain. A more...
Your inheritance, well, yes and… In California legally an inheritance is the separate property of the person who receives it. However, whether you get to keep it depends on what you did with it. If you kept your inheritance money in your name and in an account...
Your feelings around your spouse’s infidelity are natural, understandable, and important. Feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, shock, rage, and so on are to be expected when one’s partner has been unfaithful. Your feelings around the affair, whatever they might be, are...