Can We Still Be Friends (after Divorce)?

from Song by Todd Rundgren, 1978 If you’ve had enough birthdays, you may remember this 70’s song by Todd Rundgren. He poses a question that comes up at the end of relationships. Maybe, if we can still be friends, it will soften the blow, lessen the pain. A more...

Making Sense of Those Divorce Legal Forms

The Petition Opens a file: Filing a petition for dissolution of marriage (divorce) simply opens a file at the courthouse and gives you a file number to use in the future.  Nothing else will ever happen if no one files anything further.  In fact, the court is obligated...

Parenting in the Age of COVID

2020 was a year for the history books.  It has had a huge impact on how we live our lives, in ways most of us had never imagined. Parenting children in the age of COVID proves to be challenging even in an intact family. Add in separation and divorce and the areas of...

How to Stop Fighting in Front of Your Kids

(Beyond Buttoning Your Lips!) Hold a “Commitment Ceremony” Before you can implement any of the following ideas, you need to have a commitment from your ex (or soon to be ex) that you will both do everything possible to stop fighting in front of the kids. Write it down...

I Am Afraid I Will End Up in a Cardboard Box

Everyone worries about how their future will look after their divorce.  Your worst fear might be that you will be living in a cardboard box, and this article will tell you how and why that won’t happen. One way to be sure that all financial information is...