Kids, Divorce and the Holidays

The holidays can be hard for families that are going through a divorce.  Many families have established traditions that they look forward to year after year.  These traditions may include extended family, travel, religious rituals, festive parties, decorating a tree...

Holidays and Special Days, After Divorce

How does our family celebrate holidays, now that we’re separated?  What about birthdays and other special days? This is a common question when I first meet with parents who are newly separated and looking for guidance. They may be worried and sad about losing family...

How to Survive the Holidays during your Divorce

The holidays can be hard for families that are going through a divorce.  Many families have established traditions that they look forward to year after year.  These traditions may include extended family, travel, religious rituals, festive parties, decorating a tree...

Dating After Divorce: Blending Families

About six months after you met, you agreed it was time to meet each other’s children. You know it is not easy for children to allow a new adult into their lives so you want to be as careful as possible. You expect your ex-husband will not take it well that you are in a new relationship, however, you know it is better to tell him before you introduce the children to your new partner.

The Value of Curiosity – Especially in Divorce

When you stay open to the possibility that you do not necessarily know what your partner will say or do and you monitor your assumptions about them, you may be able to maintain a channel of communication that is less fraught with argument and disappointment.  You may still not like what he or she is wanting, but you will at least not like it from the standpoint of knowing that it is what they are actually want.